e-rotic Lifestyle Strategies™

Websters Dictionary provides the definition of the word EROTIC as ‘devoted or tending to arouse sexual desire.’

Erotic is no ordinary word......

What does the word erotic mean to you?

Is it exciting, enchanting, evocative, elating, emotive, enthralling, electrifying, exceptional or is it exasperating? Does it make you smile or make you cry? Does it take your breath away? Do you wipe away the tears or hide the laughter? Do you wonder what the word erotic means to you or your partner? Have you had the courage to ask the questions even of yourself?

EROS is the Greek God of erotic love and was the son of Aphrodite, the Goddess of love and beauty. Many concepts of the erotic are rooted in Greek mythology and since the beginning of time people have been searching for a relationship model that was based upon a union of the human body, sex, the mind and love. Eros involves a deep yearning for the Other......it is goal oriented.......and it is the desire we all have for a deep meaningful connection. The desire for an erotic love is universal and typically involves "active doing" which arouses the senses such as visual, auditory, scent or touch.

Eroticism is often an expression of beauty which is constantly changing and is in flux from era to era. Even different countries view eroticism differently. However, what is universal in meaning is that experiencing the erotic involves the body, the mind and the soul, but knowing what is erotic to you and your partner and being aware of how to experience the eroticism of the senses and this differs from individual to individual.

What does the word erotic mean to you?

The summation of EROS is life preserving instincts that are manifested as impulses to gratify basic needs as sublimated impulses, and as impulses to protect and preserve the body and mind. Eros is dynamic and is also about love that is conceived in the philosophy of Plato as a fundamental creative impulse having a sensual element. What does having an erotic love mean to you? Is it the key to having a satisfying and fulfilling relationship? Are you being denied of having the type of love you desire? What is holding you down? Why are you not pursuing the kind of life you want? Are you in search of a romantic or erotic love?

Having an erotic love with someone can mean mean having a passion for sensual living such as cooking, gardening, travel, enjoying the arts, fashion and so much more. Perhaps it is a luncheon in the grass as depicted in Claude Monet's 1865 picnic in the forest of Fontainbleau or attending the symphony and listening to the exceptionally creative work of Mozart. What mysteries of the erotic are within your mind? Does it involve art or entertainment or the beauty of the human form as displayed at the Museum of Modern Art in New York or the Art Institute in Chicago? Understanding what that is for you........... is what constitutes the very essence or eroticism.

Capstone Consulting Partners have skilled life coaches who can assist you in helping you unlock and create the Erotic Life you desire. We do this within our e-rotic Lifestyle Strategies™ practice. Understanding and unlocking the mind and its secrets and taboos is at the heart of realizing true desires and it is by reaching into the mind that you will achieve ultimate and vulnerable reality. Being with someone who is on the same page as you are is essential to creating an erotic life. What you really want is the yin to your yang.

Eroticism is in the mind of the beholder and what is in the abstract of each of our minds is unique to each of us. Not one person in the universe is alike. What is normal? Being normal is actually extraordinary. Mozart's sense for music was exceptional and certainly extraordinary. Are you exceptionally extraordinary and in search of the erotic? Our e-rotic Lifestyle Strategies™ practice can help you define the erotic for you and also find that life partner for you.

“Luncheon On The Grass” Claude Monet 1840-1926
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Luncheon On The Grass by Claude Monet

An erotic life can be provocative and bold or sensual and beautiful. The painting "Luncheon on the Grass" by Claude Monet, might be considered to be erotic. This enchanting picnic is a visual sensation of light and color. Imagine yourself as part of this romantic couple nestled on a soft cloth under a large shade tree.....eating crusty French bread, fruits and enjoying a glass of chablis. This couple is enjoying a summer afternoon and communing with nature. Get the picture? A romantic picnic adventure.......why are you not doing it?

A romantic picnic could be part of an erotic lifestyle which would envigorate the senses, feed the soul and satisfy the palate. It can be fun and will add a degree of romance to a relationship in a unique way. Who was the instigator of this romantic picnic idea? Him or Her? Let this painting by Monet create ideas for your own fantastic romantic picnic adventure. Why not commit to it and enhance the romance in your erotic life?

A romantic picnic is a great way to enhance romance and to show you care. Whether you are at the beginning of a relationship or have been together for years. Give some thought to your own neighborhood for a location. Great picnic places are sure to be just around the corner. Look for a garden, under a canopy or in a tent. Even in the busiest of urban settings you should be able to find a quiet place to set up. Get creative, whether you are in the countryside, at the beach or in a forest.

It is not easy to measure love.........but it does come in temperatures: cool, hot, scalding.......and erotic. Human beings make a lot of effort to find love and romance. While finding shelter and eating and drinking are essential for us to keep going, more so than finding love actually is.......why is it that we cannot live happily without love and romance? The pursuit of romance and love can turn us crazy in its pursuit. It can rule one's life. The pursuit of love makes the head spin and can make empty headed puppets of us all.

“Harbor At Le Havre At Night” Claude Monet 1840-1926
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Harbor At Le Havre At Night by Claude Monet

Do you find "Harbor At Le Havre At Night" by Claude Monet to be beautiful and picturesque or sensual and intriguing? Does the scene take you to a place that is romantic or lustful or does it transport you to a place where you can you smell the fresh ocean air on a quiet night under the moonlight? Look at the shadows......can you see yourself in this scene as part of a couple? With this thought in mind, is this piece of art sensual to you.........is it intriguing.......does it feel erotic to you?

Imagine yourself on a boat hearing the motion of the water as you float in a secluded cove. Perhaps being on a boat provides a private sanctuary that allows you to feel freedom and comfort and to be yourself. It might be a fantastic sensual adventure or a romantic escape. Eroticism can transcend so many boundaries.

Eros is around us and is always going somewhere. The energy of Eros is dynamic and is seeking to fill empty space and to make a connection. The experience of Monet, "Le Havre At Night" could be the basis of an erotic experience for you. There is no conceivable limit to what might be considered to be erotic to any of us.

“Camille Monet in Japanese Costume” Claude Monet 1876
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Camille Monet in Japanese Costume by Claude Monet

Camille Doncieux (1847 - 1879) was the first wife of Claude Monet. She was also his muse, friend and lover and modeled for her husband on numerous occasions, including for the painting Camille, "In Japanese Costume."

No one else appears in Monet's paintings as often as his first wife, Camille. Monet began to paint her as his young girl-friend as early as 1863. She is not always recognizable in his paintings as it was the intention of the artist that he was not painting a portrait of an individual. Rather, he created a picture of an elegant young woman as a typical example of the Parisiennes. He was making a statement on his view of the time; to represent modern Parisienne life. From the early studies on The Picnic in 1865 to wearing many fashionable designs which he painted her, to the time of her early death in 1879, she is present in many of his works.

At first, she appears in large-format figure paintings on the beach. She is sometimes seen as a subordinate staffage figure in genre paintings and landscapes. They became married in 1870 and then became ill in 1875. They had two sons; the birth of her second child weakened her already fading health. She died in 1879 of pelvic cancer. Monet's final painting of Camille was on her death bed.

Monet often painted his wife wearing fashionable designs. By the nineteenth century, Paris had been the center of the international fashion world which became particularly inspiring for many painters and around the middle of the century, the first large department stores were opened - true consumption temples of fashion - and, for the first time, outstanding tailors such as Coco Chanel were celebrated as brilliant designers as numerous illustrated fashion magazines were launched.

Does fashion interest you.....really interest you? Does it inspire or intrigue you? Are you fashion obsessed in the recesses of your mind? Does fashion relate to you as the centerpiece of an erotic lifestyle? How can the pursuit of fashion allow you to explore an erotic relationship lifestyle?

Fashion is constantly changing and what is in vogue in one part of the world can be passe and out of mind in another. Fashion is sophistication in fantasy and allows a kaleidoscope of personalities to emerge and when worn creatively can be suggestive of a multitude of things. Whether conventional, elegant, glamorous, couture or not, fashion can be aggressive, submissive, subversive escapist fantasy or supremely compelling. Fashion conveys a message whether worn by Hollywood Stars, Pop Princesses, Classic Ladies, Fetishists, Power Dressers, Punkers, A-List Celebrities, so called "Bad Girls," or the Girl next door. Fashion allows anyone to be all of the above........all in the same day!

Fashion can create a striking silhouette, meaning power, guarantee social standing, be provocative as a precursor to sex or even have a body morphing fetish allure. Despite being condemned by feminists as enslaving, fashion can also be as much liberating allowing women to self invent and to explore their female power and femininity. Fashion and style is simply an elaboration of who you are or an expression of who you want to be.

Enhancing your unique sense of personal style might mean wearing a stilletto heel, which is one of the most recognizable defiantly extreme weapons in the arsenal of female power worn by career women and starlets of all types. Whether worn in the corporate or creative or casual style setting, the stiletto makes a definite statement and sets a tone. Media exposure has given women instant gratification with the stilletto as a shoe that works no matter the body shape. One of the benefits of the stilletto is that it alters the form of the body without the side effects of botox or liposuction and their style is ageless.

What Does the Word ~ Erotic Mean to You?

To illustrate the meaning of the word erotic we have used the art of Monet to make the point that Eros is always present and can be found in many venues and that such diverse activities as attending the symphony and listening to music, appreciating good food, or wearing fashionable designs are all erotic. One of the keys to maintaining a long term relationship is about gaining an understanding of the depth and richness of the other. Once these mysteries are unlocked the potential exists for passion and intimacy. Everything is infused with the word erotic and human sexuality is certainly erotic. Erotic is quite simply one of the most meaningful ways to connect. Spirituality is erotic.......so is language.........even nature is erotic as depicted below in the collage of imagery below. The centerpiece of the display below......Water Lilies by Monet (probably 1915). is all about beauty in nature.

If a human connection is sought, then the energy of Eros is most certainly present........and the power of the erotic permeates both our culture and our relationships. What is your angle on the erotic? How do you express erotic? Could it be sexual? What gives you your erotic thrill? Is it intimacy that gives you pleasure? Is there a dimension of yourself that is erotic that you do not dare bring to the light of day?

What defines your ultimate erotic self?

Do you desire a different relationship model? Relationship success is what everyone on this planet is in search of. Is it possible to develop a deeper "e-rotic relationship" with the special person in your life? How we navigate through our relationships is no easy task. Relationships connect us to the world we live within. Is a new ~ Modern e-rotic Relationship Model in your future?

What do you want from your relationship? Relationships are tough and require work to make them work. We all love differently and you have got to figure out that area of your life to really be happy. If you don't you likely will end up "settling" and then you are living with whatever it is that you miss.........and that is NOT a good way to live.

Relationship success requires communication and sometimes that can get messy with the person we most need to talk with. It is often times difficult to know how to approach an area of concern when that honest, heart-to-heart conversation needs to take place with our most significant partner. Sometimes the easiest things are the hardest to say. Our Relationship Strategies practice can help. We can break down the barriers and get you to solutions that work.

You are not alone. We have talented life coaches on our staff who can assist you in working through the most challenging of situations. Get the eye opening perspective of another and begin to develop an approach to bring positive change into your life and into your relationship. Re-invent your relationship to achieve a new ~ "Modern e-rotic Relationship" by developing a strategy that works for you and meets your needs. Do something that is really different and out of the box. Arrange to meet with one of our coaches. There may be a simple solution to a complex problem that can be arrived at by meeting with one of our life strategy coaches.

Talking about how you feel is not easy and whether your issue is one which is out in the open or involves sexual style and preferences of what is going on between the sheets and behind the bedroom door we have a relationship coach who can help you. Meetings are completely confidential and can be arranged with a female or male strategy life coach. We will even come to your location.

Men and women approach relationships differently and we all have complexity in our lives. A new approach can be the outcome of meeting with a strategy coach and be the new beginning for you which will allow you to approach things with a new perspective and from a new angle. Men and women have unique styles. Communicaion is essential for approaching relationship change. You may be in a relationship with an individual who is not a communicator and is more into doing than into talking or sharing space rather than sharing feelings. How does one achieve face-to-face intimacy? We have a proven approach that works which has been built around the concepts of Helen Fisher, author of Why We Love.

Share your thoughts with one of our talented life coaches and obtain a new perspective. Whether the issue in your relationship involves commitment, money, careers, children, in-laws or something more challenging like sex, one of our relationship strategies coaches can help. Whether you need a woman strategy coach or a male strategy coach we will do the match with one of our professionals and get you talking to someone who will assist you in addressing your issue and solving your problem and create the life you really want.

If the concept of an e-rotic lifestyle model is too edgy for your sensibilities, we offer no apologies!

If you would like to achieve an e-rotic lifestyle relationship approach, contact us.........one of our strategy coaches will meet with you and help you begin to create the life of your dreams.

We hope this short essay will inspire you to explore your erotic world. The world of the EROTIC is no ordinary world. It is soul-fulfilling, mind-blowing and intimacy-building!

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